Dating is a tricky business especially when you have people who might not be that invested in a relationship, after all in today’s day and age dating has become as simple as swiping left or right in an app. Gone are the days when people used to find time for romance and wooing when women used to wait for their gallant knight in shining armour. Today, the world is seeing a very depressing dating trend with terms like ‘ghosting’, ‘benching’ and ‘bread crumbing’ and dating has become as elusive as spending time watching daffodils fluttering in the breeze. If you’ve grown up on a staple diet of American TV shows like F.R.I.E.N.D.S, How I Met Your Mother and others then you would definitely know what we are talking about and especially dating and to be in a relationship in today’s fast-paced world has become very difficult. So when two strangers who kept up their conversation on Tinder for three years, people sat up and took notice and their conversation soon became viral. However, now there has come up an actual term for what they did and it might come under ‘submarining’. Submarining is the new creepy dating trend that has come up.
Submarining has nothing to do with the Navy but it is a term that describes when people stop calling or texting you back for a while and then resurface and take up the conversation thread where they left as if nothing happened. It is different than the other dating terms like ghosting, stashing and zombeing. Previously, if someone stopped messaging or calling you back it was a clear indication that the person is not interested in you but with ‘submarining’ the person can evade you for eons but still get back whenever they feel like it. Apparently, submarining is what this Tinder couple Josh Avsec and Michelle Arendas have been doing to each other for the past three years. The term comes from the fact that like a submarine that disappears underneath the water without leaving any trace on the surface and then reemerges after weeks, a person you’ve been texting on a dating app does the same to you.
Submarining starts when you start seeing someone and it’s all going hunky dory but suddenly they disappear without any explanation at all. They might come back into your life and send you a message as if nothing happened without any explanation for their disappearance and pick up from where they left. You might feel a little dejected but then you can either ask them what they did when they were avoiding you or you can just pretend that they really were under the sea and that everything is fine. Whatever be the outcome of the relationship, this dating term is here to stay and you better revamp and update your dating dictionary.