Actor Irrfan Khan‘s wife Sutapa Sikdar stood like the strongest pillar for him during his battle with cancer. As he passed away on April 29 at Mumbai’s Kokilaben Hospital, people across the world mourned the actor’s demise and called it a personal loss. In a warm post on Friday morning, Sutapa wrote to all those grieving over her husband’s demise and put a brave face. Sutapa talked about the things Irrfan made his kids learn and how all of us who are mourning his demise can learn so much from the way he lived his life. Sutapa also revealed that her sons – Babil and Ayaan will be planting a ‘Raat Ki Rani’ plant where Irrfan has been put to rest so that the fragrance of the plant can touch those who are grieving currently.Also Read - Study Finds Online Search For Irrfan Khan Surges Globally by 6,200 Per Cent, Actor Continues to 'Live Forever in Hearts of Millions of Fans'

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“How can I write this as a family statement when the whole world is taking it as a personal loss? How can I begin to feel alone when millions are grieving with us at the moment? I want to assure everyone that this is not a loss, it is a gain. It’s a gain of the things he taught us, and now we shall finally begin to truly implement it and evolve. Yet I want to try to fill in the things that people don’t already know. Also Read - Twin Tragedies: After Irrfan Khan, Veteran Actor Rishi Kapoor Dies at 67; Twitter Overwhelmed With Sadness

It’s unbelievable for us but I would put it in Irrfan’s words, “it’s magical” whether he is there or not there, and that’s what he loved, he never loved one-dimensional reality. The only thing I have a grudge against him is; he has spoiled me for life. His strive for perfection doesn’t let me settle for ordinary in anything. There was a rhythm which he always saw in everything, even in cacophony and chaos, so I have learnt to sing and dance to the music of that rhythm, even with my tone-deaf voice and two left feet. Funnily, our life was a masterclass in acting, so when the dramatic entry of the “uninvited guests” happened, I had by then learnt, to see a harmony in the cacophony. The doctor’s reports were like scripts which I wanted to perfect, so I never miss any detail that he sought for in his performance. We met some amazing people in this journey and the list is endless, but there are some whom I have to mention, our oncologist Dr. Nitesh Rohtogi (Max hospital Saket) who held our hand in the beginning, Dr. Dan Krell (UK), Dr. Shidravi (UK), my heartbeat and my lantern in the dark Dr. Sevanti Limaye (Kokilaben hospital). It’s difficult to explain what a wondrous, beautiful, overwhelming, painful and exciting this journey has been. I find this 2 and 1/2 years to have been an interlude, which had its own beginning, middle and culmination with Irrfan helming the role of the orchestra conductor, separate from the 35 years of our companionship, ours was not a marriage, it was a union. I see my little family, in a boat, with both my son Babil and Ayaan, paddling it forward, with Irrfan guiding them “wahan nahi yahan se modo” but since life is not cinema and there are no retakes, I sincerely wish my children, if possible, they could sum up a lesson taught by their father that has been important to them;

Babil: ‘Learn to surrender to the dance of uncertainty and trust your faith in the universe.’

Ayaan: ‘Learn to control your mind and to not let it control you.’

Tears will flow as we will plant a raat ki rani tree, his favourite, to the place where you have put him to rest after a victorious journey. It takes time but it will bloom and the fragrance will spread and touch all the souls whom I won’t call them fans but family for years to come.” (sic)