It is very important to understand and know the difference between love and lust. What you think is love may be lust and what you think is lust might be love. In today’s world, dating has all kinds of different levels. From crushes, to silly dates and then commitment, getting into a relationship may not be as easy it looks. If you have a date in the coming weekend and want to be sure of your partner’s feelings, then you are at the right page. If you want to know if it is love or lust that your partner feels for you, then these tips will definitely help you identify the difference between love and lust. Also if you are the one who has fallen in love after just a five minute meeting with someone, then you definitely need to give this a read. ALSO READ (Why long distance relationships work? 8 reasons why distance is harmless in love!)Also Read - 9 Expert Tips to Keep Your Pets Warm This Winter

1. When it is love, you think more about the other person

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In love, it is more about the other person and his needs and desires. It is a natural feeling and people go absolutely selfless in love. You will care a lot more about his dreams and growth. You would do everything possible to ensure that your partner grows in life. Also Read - Numerology And Marriage: How Number Affects Love, Relationships And Your Partner's Destiny

2. Lust, however is selfish


Lust on the other side is downright selfish. It is a craving for the other person’s body that feels the need to be satiated at any cost. You don’t care about the other person’s growth or development.  You are just obsessed to his/her body.  If it is lust, you will think about the person all the time, but the only reason why you think about them so much is because of all the things they do to keep you happy. ALSO READ (Signs of a jealous and possessive girlfriend: 10 red flags you simply cannot ignore!)

3. Love means a lot of meaningful conversations

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When in love the person usually wants to have many deep and meaningful conversations so that there is a better understanding about things. You cannot fall in love with someone you don’t really know. So conversations will help you get to know the person better.  So if you or your date does a lot of talking and late night conversations, you can be sure that this is love. ALSO READ (Top 10 things you will learn in the first year of your married life!)

4. Meanwhile lust is just about sex

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It doesn’t matter if you do not know much about your date. You are with knowing just his name.  If all that matters to you is some good sex, then this is nothing but lust. If you avoid talks and conversations and just want to kiss him and go home with him, then you know that this is lust. Even if you both do have conversations, it only revolves around sex and about how hot your last time was; this is another difference between love and lust. ALSO READ (How to tell your crush you like him: 7 ways to let him know about your feelings!)

5. When it is lust, you care more about physical features

Now this is a very obvious sign to tell it is lust. You do not want to know his feelings, emotions, likes dislikes or anything else. All you love is his physical features. You like his face, his smile, his lips, and his body and so on. You could just sit there and stare at him for hours and you would still not e bored because his perfect looks have totally floored you.  It is lust when all this is all that you care about. ALSO READ (Befikre and the world of casual dating and sex: 5 tips to get you started)

6. Love is a lot of cuddling and lust is not

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Sex exists in both love and lust. But there is a difference and the difference is that when in love, sex is followed by sweet talks, cuddling and romantic gestures. However when it is lust, there is no cuddling at all. Both the parties have sex and just move on. ALSO READ (How to have a long term relationship: 6 rules for a happy ending!)

7. Stability is love and fire is lust

If there is stability in your relationship and with the way things are progressing, it is obvious that the feeling is called love. But if you feel sparks everywhere and too much chaos then have no doubts that it is lust. There will be lack of emotional feelings or attachment. ALSO READ (10 Indian celebrities who got married in 2016!)

8. Friends and family became a part of your relation when in love

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When a person is in love and is dead sure about his feelings, the first thing he would want to do is introduce the love of his life to his family and friends. This is because he wants to tell the girl that he is serious about this and also wants his world to know that she is the one for him. But when it is plain lust, it is just the two of you and nobody else. Not many will know about your relation. ALSO READ (Single in 2017? 7 reasons why it is awesome!)

The above mentioned points are some of the basic tips on how to differentiate between love and lust. So the next time you are confused about your feelings, these tips will help you differentiate and get you a better clarity.