If in life one asks you a simple question – where does maximum pain come from, the answer would be one word – comparison. Nothing harms us more than making comparisons. How happy would a life be without this word is beyond our imagination, at least in the current scenario. This is because our whole mindset is based around the concept of comparison.

In fact, in today’s time, happy are those who believe in the policy of self-containment. But the reality is that a self-contained person is one among millions. Such people are beyond any ifs and buts.

Now let’s take a look at some sentences that we often say without giving much thought. You might have often not paid attention to these spoken words but it is impossible that you have never heard of them. Interestingly, these sentences are spoken by those who have a son and daughter and even by those who have just daughters. In both the situations, we often say sentences like – our daughters are like sons, our daughters are better than sons, and daughters are no less than sons. They reflect our inner feeling and our mindset.

There is no better way than the words we speak to reflect our thoughts and decisions. And hence, these sentences show that our mind is full of the virtues of a son. In our thought process, sons are always ahead of daughters. No matter how many slogans we say, but fact remains that in India, mostly in the northern part of the country, we are far behind as far as giving equality to daughters is concerned. There’s still a long way to go.

One needs to keep this in mind that words we widely use while conversing with children become part of our habit, these are the terms that become a decisive factor in determining our child’s psychology. When we are not able to handle this it often leads to comparison between son and daughter.

You might have seen many families where elder sisters call their younger brothers as ‘bhaiya’, it is because even their mother might have done the same. At first glance, these things might look awkward, but if you think a little bit, then you will understand everything.

So, the need of the hour is that we should adopt a new attitude towards life. By following what has been going on from ages we are just increasing our problems.

The article has been translated from Dear Zindagi blog on Zeenews.com to English by Ruchi Dua. The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of India.com. The writer is solely responsible for any claims arising out of the contents of this article.