Dear Men, You and I exist in the same world, yet our realities are so different! On this Women’s Day, we want to tell you that we don’t need flowery praises or lavish gifts, we just want you to help make our lives less harrowing and be our allies in this lonely fight for equality and respect. Now is the time to stand in solidarity with women everywhere. Also Read - Radhika Madan-Alia Bhatt-Kiara Advani And Others Talk About 'Magical' Girl Power on Women's Day
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Spare us the mansplaining
We know you love showing off your wisdom, but your valuable inputs are not required everywhere, so stop explaining things to us when not asked. We have a fully functional brain and we can google things too, you know!
For many who are not familiar with the term–mansplaining means to explain something to someone, typically a woman, in a manner regarded as condescending or patronizing.
Feminism is not a bad word
Feminism means equality, nothing less and nothing more. Period. If you agree with that, you’re a feminist, irrespective of your gender. However, this word has been translated to “a group of angry women who hate men.”
For the last time, we don’t hate you, we are just aware of our rights and not afraid of calling you out when you are being a misogynist. Also, there is no shame in calling yourself a feminist and supporting women in their fight for gender equality.
After all, at the core, feminism is just about making the world a better place!
Stop commenting on women’s appearance
Men going out of their way to tell women how we should wear our hair, how much makeup we should wear, what we should shave, how our bodies look to them, is just unsolicited.
There is a clear demarcation between complimenting and objectifying women’s bodies, high time you learn that. Women’s bodies and their choices are not up for a public discussion. So, just stop, please.
Sensitise and educate yourself
All you men, who view women and girls as less than equal, as less worthy of our humanity and sense of fairness need to seriously sensitise and educate yourself.
Making sneaky jokes about women’s skills and doubting them just because of their gender is the worst thing ever. Start afresh, it’s never too late.
Rape jokes aren’t okay ever
While you don’t realise it, but all the ‘rape’ and sexist jokes you casually crack are not funny and extremely demeaning. These jokes have nothing to do with your sense of humour, and everything to do with normalising the idea of sexual assault. Come up with better jokes, please!
If you plead ‘not guilty’ in this case, stop your bros too and don’t engage in sexist behaviour by laughing and high-fiving. While you are at it, please stop with those offensive curse words too.
Speak up when you see injustice
Instead of brushing aside issues that are deemed ‘women-centric, speak up and be an equal participant in criticising it.
It’s not our job to fix you
Simply put, it is not a woman’s responsibility to make men better human beings, and be caretakers of badly raised, ill-mannered men. We can’t fix you and we won’t. Go to a therapist or a rehab centre if need be. Of course, we will be there to hold you and support you by all means.
Also, it’s not our job to feed you, take care of a household and raise babies. You are not entitled to all these privileges just because of your gender.
Fight the patriarchy together
We know how this totally unfashionable system has crushed your soul too! Let’s resolve that we will fight it out together and not let the coming generations wither under its trauma.
Because the battle is not between you and us, it’s against ourselves, our insecurities and the constructs that we have placed on each other.
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